The Lowdown on Accountabilty Partners

“You can’t experience real growth if you don’t have any type of accountability. You’re more likely to commit if you have someone pushing you, ” tweeted Her Therapy Space founder, Kristin Winchester back in 2017.

By definition, accountability is a noun that describes accepting responsibility. When done right, it’s the difference between success and failure and helps to eliminate the time and effort you spend on unproductive behavior.

That’s part of the reason our community is designed to provide you with tools, resources, and accountability that you need in order to see the changes that you desire in your life. 

In fact, according to the American Society of Training and Development, people are 65 % more likely to meet a goal after committing to another person. They can help with support and advice to keep you on the road to success,  help you get clarity, and challenge you to grow.

Benefits of having an accountability partner

Sometimes pursuing your goals can get overwhelming and can even feel downright complicated. However, having an accountability partner can help you get clear on your approach!

  • Leverage each of your individual strengths. You can help each other in areas where the other person may struggle.
  • Commit to a regular check-in and review of each of your goals. This could be on a weekly or bi-weekly basis, or whatever works for both (or all!) of you. Doing this regularly will make you a whole lot more likely to stick to it!
  • Celebrate your wins together
  • Hold each other accountable. This one seems obvious, but remember, when youre feeling stuck or the negative thoughts creep in strikes—and it will!—you’ll be more likely to stick to your goals if you know you’ll soon be checking in with your accountability partner.

Be open and honest. Had a bad week? Busted every one of your goals? No worries. Things like this happen, but you won’t get ahead if you don’t face your downfalls and failures. So don’t be afraid to lay it all on the table and share it with your accountability partner. And who knows? Maybe you’ll find that they were holding back, too!

How to approach an accountability partner

Before you identify who you’d like to be your accountability buddy. Ask yourself these questions:

  • What is it that you need help with? 
  • In what ways are you struggling? 
  • What would getting help do for you? 
  • How would your life improve?

By mapping out what you need help with, it’ll be much easier to start seeking out help because you’ll be clear on everything and will be able to better articulate your needs.

What to look for in an accountability partner

  • Someone who will check you, get in there, and go to war with you and for you
  • Someone more disciplined than you are
  • Someone who has the time to invest in your goals
  • Someone who you can hold accountable

The truth about accountability is that it starts with YOU. You cannot delegate it — it’s something you have to accept in order to take ownership of your goals and dreams. 

However, there’s absolutely no need to struggle alone. It takes a village after all. That’s why we encourage every member to get an accountability partner within the community. This isn’t mandatory but undoubtedly beneficial. Work on navigating the community, doing the work beyond the couch, and smashing your personal goals together.

What do y’all think? Yay or nay to accountability partners? Has this helped or hindered your success in the past? 


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